Who is to blame?

who's to blame

There really should be a game show called “who is to blame,” shouldn’t there? 

I can’t tell you how many thousands of times I’ve moved too fast and missed something important because I thought had learned all that I needed to. 

I’m a classic example of someone who leaps and then looks … oops! 

And we’re all guilty of it, right? Moving too fast and missing important stuff?

Making assumptions.

Blaming the other person for not being clear … when WE could have taken just a minute more to truly understand.

I wanted to know how to delete a “favorite” game on a solitaire program on my computer, and I went online to see if anyone else knew. Lots of answers, but no help.

So I wrote to the company.

My question: “How can I delete a ‘favorite’ game?”

And I got a response!


The response: “When you wish to add a game to your list, just click on “Favorites” – “Organize Favorites” The first blue arrow is to add games, the second to remove games from your list.”

Do you see what happened?

And sad to say, I wrote back thanking him but saying he hadn’t read my question.

But neither had I read his whole answer.

My thought for improvement for all of us?

When we answer a question, let’s be sure we START with what was asked. Here, he started with adding, not deleting, so I stopped reading.

That’s on me, by the way, not him. I could have kept reading; it was only one more sentence … I made an assumption. I was so wrong.

Have you ever done anything like this? How did it turn out for you? 

For more on this topic, check out this article by Amy Blaschka: 

who's to blame

(Yes, I wrote again and apologized for not reading his whole answer.)

Has this ever happened to you? What would you suggest we do in the future?